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Marriage of Jim & Rachael

October 10, 2011

Second Parish in Hingham

Greeting and Welcome to the Wedding Guests

We are gathered here to join James Viccaro and Rachael Colby in marriage.  It is fitting and appropriate that you, their families and friends, be here to witness and to participate in their wedding, for the ideals, the understanding, and the mutual respect which they bring to their marriage have their roots in the love, friendship, and guidance you have given them.  Their relationship will continue to draw much of its beauty and meaning from their intimate associations of the past.

     We rejoice with them that out of all the world they have found each other, and that they will henceforth find richness of human life in sharing it with each other.  

 

Candle of Remembrance

We light this candle to remember those who are not here today, but whose love, along with yours, has nurtured and will continue to nurture Rachael and Jim in their life together.

 

Reading 1:

If I speak in human and angel tongues, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.  If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.     Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude.  Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; and as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.  For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes the imperfect will pass away.  So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. --1 Corinthians 1:13

 

Homily

Jim and Rachael, you come to this day and to this moment to join your lives together in marriage.  The marriage vow is a solemn vow, not to be undertaken lightly or without due consideration, yet it is also a joyful vow, this promise to be loving and true to another human being for all the days of your life.

         For marriage is above all a promise to love.  Understood this way, love is not only a feeling that may come and go with the usual ups and downs of living.  Rather, love is something you do, and in the doing you renew the feeling of love.  Love is all of the different ways, small and large, that you care for the other person - your considering of the other person's feelings, your awareness of the other's needs, your communication of your own feelings and needs.

         Love is something you do, and this means that the many different ways of expressing love represent an enriching of your love over and over and over again.

         May your marriage be just such an opportunity for this ever-deepening & enriching of love.

 

Prayer

 

Blessed are you, O God, creator of the universe.  Grant that the love which unites Jim and Rachael may grow in abiding happiness.  May there be peace in their home, quietness and confidence in their hearts.  May they be sustained by finding their place in the midst of all people, and by the hope of peace and justice for all people. 

 

Let’s join together in the Lord’s Prayer:

 

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name.

Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread,

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory forever and ever. 

 

Amen

 

Music:  “Dark Side,” Grateful Dead

 

Reading 2:  Dr. Ryan Fielding

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments.  Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove:

Oh, no! it is an ever-fixed mark,

That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,

Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle's compass come;

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

             If this is error, and upon me prov'd,

             I never writ, nor no man ever lov'd.

                                             --William Shakespeare

 

Presentation

By your presence here today, you give your blessing to this union.  Your presence symbolizes the many generations that stand behind these two who are here to join their lives.

 

Affirmation of the Gathered

A marriage is above all else an intimate relationship between two persons; but it also has its ripples into the lives of family, friends, and the community.  Do you who are here gathered affirm to Rachael and Jim your support of the commitment they make today, a commitment of shared life and home?   

 

              "We do."

 

Preface to the Vows

 

Rachael and Jim, you have freely given voice to your desire to be united in marriage.  I invite you now to clasp hands as you repeat your vows.

 

Vows

I, James, take you, Rachael, to be my wife in marriage,

               To have and to hold from this day forth,

               For better, for worse,

               For richer, for poorer,

               In sickness and in health,

               To love, to cherish, and to deeply respect,

               all the days of my life.

               With my whole heart and with complete devotion,

               I pledge you my love.

 

I, Rachael, take you, Jim [or James?], to be my husband in marriage,

               To have and to hold from this day forth,

               For better, for worse,

               For richer, for poorer,

               In sickness and in health,

               To love, to cherish, and to deeply respect,

               all the days of my life.

               With my whole heart and with complete devotion,

               I pledge you my love.

 

Musical Interlude:  Beth Morrell, Soprano – Ave Maria

 

Introduction to the Exchange of Rings

 

The wedding ring symbolizes the unbroken circle of endless love.  Some say it is worn on the third finger because of an ancient Greek belief that a vein from that finger is connected directly to the heart, thus symbolizing the depth and sincerity of love.

 

 

Exchange of Rings

With this ring I thee wed,

         and join my life with thine. (2x)

 

Pronouncement

 

Jim and Rachael, having joined yourselves in marriage and having signified your commitment to each other in the joining of hands, the sharing of words, and the exchanging of rings, and having done all these things in the presence of and with the blessings of these your friends and family, you are now and henceforward will be husband and wife.

 

The Kiss!!

 

Ringing of the Bell

 

Benediction

May the blessings of God be upon you.

                  May peace abide with you.

                  May the spirit of life and love illuminate your souls,

                  Now and forevermore.    Amen

 

Recessional & Postlude